Sappho Speaks: Is There Such A Thing As A True Bisexual?

What Would Sappho Say?

Lectori Salutem! or L.S. (Greetings to the Reader!)

For those of you who didn’t tune into the film industry through going to the movies or ultimately renting the DVD or watching on cable the movie Kinsey in 2004 about sex researcher extraordinaire Alfred Kinsey, prepare yourself for another one of my history lessons. By now you should be used to it with the Sappho bio and BEWARE, THE UPCOMING guide through the history of marriage.

Kinsey, born 1894 – 1956, is commonly known as the father of sexology or the study of human sexuality as a science. His work has profoundly influenced social and cultural values all over the world and the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction remains in his name at Indiana University. Most well known of his work after interviewing thousands and thousands of individuals was the idea that at least 10% of the population was gay and that sexuality was not a static idea as simple as hetero and homosexual. It was fluid and fell on a scale, known as the Kinsey scale, running from 0 to 6 with 0 being completely straight, 6 completely gay and 3 being completely bisexual. Later a 7 was added for asexuals. Before this monumental work sex was in the shadows of modern life and virtually unspoken of in the media, sciences and news. His contribution to the cause of opening the door for us to walk through should not be underrated.

So onto the real subject, is there such a thing as a three, a true bisexual with absolutely no preference between the sexes? And where on the scale do you fall? I know for a fact not all lesbians are sixes. I’d have to call myself a 4.85 or something based on my life history while presently I would never sleep with a man, I can still sit back in awe of the male form when a real gorgeous one comes my way. It’s just that now I am no longer confused when that same man starts to flirt with me like I was when I was younger and single, lonely and wondering am I really totally…? YES would scream back at me whenever I was weak enough to fall down that path but it didn’t mean a pretty man couldn’t flirt and get me drunk enough to con his way into my home and then my bed many years ago so obviously I am not a six! Sex with men and women is so totally different I cannot conceive of someone who finds them interchangeable. I have admitted to getting myself in trouble with the “professed” or “recently converted” bisexual but I know exactly what women who are a four or a five are like to be with and exactly what they think of being with women and why they choose men, it’s part of their societal wiring. Without fail, the way the culture treats a man and a woman and two women will drive a woman who is experimenting but still likes men back to men. It is almost inevitable. If there is such an animal as a three, how does he or she fight the urge to be treated as “normal” folk and be completely unbiased? I don’t believe it’s possible. I’m not saying there aren’t bisexuals out there in relationships with the same sex. They have fallen in love and love is a cruel animal that strikes without warning but like tributaries flow into a mighty river, the bisexual will eventually wind up with the opposite sex, or so my imagination believes and my eyes have seen in my lifetime.

The exceptions to this are the “converts” who were really lesbians all along and just didn’t know it. My best friend is of this category. She was 29 and entered her first lesbian experience and stayed with the same woman for 12 years. After they broke up she was unsure what to do and found that she had no real desire to be with men. She even took one for a test drive to push the point home. Sex with men was a thing of the past. She had tasted something that ignited a new desire in her and no second-rate, stubbly-faced, man is going to do for her. Sorry guys, it’s a metaphor, kind of.

So, let me here from all you threes out there telling me how wrong I am. This again is just my opinion. Thanks for indulging me.

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Much Love.


Inspired by Sappho’s Muse

MUSIC OF THE DAY
For the songs of the day I can’t possible pass up Katy Perry’s I Kissed a Girl which goes out for all those fence sitting women that corner you in the bathroom for the perfect first kiss and the one’s who take it even further and lead you on a 6 month ride of their self discovery. As a willing participant in these activities in the past, I can’t say it has been something I regret. There is something extremely sexy about being a woman’s first.

The second is about that feeling you get when you first get those feelings for someone who you know is all wrong for you but you just don’t care. Your knees buckle, you know the end is near but you just Save It For Later by the English Beat. And you can’t have that song without including the song that lays the cards on the table with The Beat’s I Confess. It’s for that point when you know she’s just not the one your searching for and you just have to admit it, or confess.

The final song is fro the wonderful Green Day, So Tired Of Waiting For You - perfectly appropriate for all those bisexually oriented and so-called straight women ready for their trip down experimental alley while you are sitting there filing your nails (well, those lipstick lesbians among us) as they figure out their shit!!!!!

I Kissed A Girl       Katy Perry
Save It For Later       The English Beat
I Confess       The English Beat
So Tired Of Waiting For You   Green Day

QUOTES OF THE DAY
Some people move in lesbian circles. I move in bisexual dodecahedrons.
Anonymous

The time has come, I think, when we must recognize bisexuality as a normal form of human behavior… we shall not really succeed in disregarding the straightjacket of our cultural beliefs about sexual choice if we fail to come to terms with the well-documented, normal human capacity to love both sexes.
Margaret Mead

Bisexuality is not so much a copout as a fearful compromise.
Jill Johnson